The short answer
The list is a wish, not a gate
Here is what a requirements list usually is: someone’s idea of the perfect candidate, assembled from a dozen hopes, few of which any real person satisfies completely. Hiring teams know this. They expect to compromise. So when you read fifteen bullet points and count the three you don’t have, you’re holding yourself to a standard the employer isn’t even holding.
This matters because of whyqualified people talk themselves out of applying. When researchers asked professionals why they didn’t apply for jobs where they didn’t meet every qualification, the top reason — for men and women alike — wasn’t lack of skill or confidence. It was that they thought the listed qualifications were mandatory and didn’t want to waste their time (Harvard Business Review, 2014). In other words: the barrier was a misreading, not a real gap.
Forget the 60% rule
You may have heard that you should apply if you meet 60% of the requirements — or the version where “women only apply when they’re 100% qualified and men apply at 60%.” It gets repeated everywhere as fact. It isn’t one. The number traces back to an unverified internal anecdote that no one has ever actually produced, and the threshold shifts depending on who’s quoting it. Treat any specific percentage as what it is: a made-up round number standing in for a real judgment.
The judgment underneath is better anyway, because it’s about you specifically rather than an average. Instead of “do I hit some percentage,” ask: can I point to real evidence that I’d handle what this role most needs?
When requirements ARE firm
One honest exception. In regulated or safety-critical fields — medicine, law, finance, some engineering — a stated license, certification, or minimum credential can be a genuine hard gate, tied to the law or to insurance rather than to preference. If a role names a credential you don’t have and can’t quickly get, believe it. Everywhere else, most “required” lines are softer than they read. Know which kind of requirement you’re looking at before you rule yourself out.
How to decide, honestly
- 1
Find the real must-haves.
Not the whole list — the three to five things the role clearly can’t do without. See how to read a job description. - 2
Name your evidence for each.
One specific example from your own experience per must-have. If you can evidence most of the core, the missing bullets are noise. - 3
Check for a hard gate.
Is anything you’re missing an actual legal or licensing requirement? If yes, respect it. If no, it’s a preference. - 4
Apply to the match, not around the gaps.
When you apply, make your case speak to the priorities you domeet — don’t spend the application apologizing for the ones you don’t.
Common mistakes
Reading the wish-list as a checklist.
Instead: Assume the list is aspirational. The employer expects to compromise; hold yourself to the core of the role, not every bullet.
Trusting a percentage rule.
Instead: Ignore “60%” and its cousins — they’re folklore. Judge whether you can evidence the role’s real priorities.
Ruling yourself out over a preference.
Instead: Separate genuine hard gates (licenses, credentials) from soft preferences. Most “required” lines are the latter.
Applying with no evidence for the core.
Instead: If you can’t name real examples for what the role most needs, that’s the honest “not yet,” percentage or no percentage.
The better test
None of this means apply to everything — your hours are finite, and a role you can’t evidence isn’t worth them. It means stop deciding by counting. Run the two-column test instead, decide on evidence, and let the folklore go. The question was never “am I 60% qualified.” It was always “can I show I’d do this well.”